Spring has Sprung

... and our 100 day milestone has passed. I put it on my calendar with every intention to write a "100 days until our wedding" blog, but totally miscalculated the date and missed it. Whoops.

Now with only 86 days until our wedding (and only 61 days until I graduate!), our true countdown begins. Being so close and surrounded by 20+ fellow engaged folk (the unknown side of business school), I receive frequent inquiries about the pressures of our impending nuptials. "Do you have a ton to do?", people ask. My response explains how many things must be left until the last minute -- ie. once invitations are sent and I actually know who's coming and how many, then the real work begins. Meanwhile, in the back of my head I'm thinking... "I don't have much left to do but Jeng on the other hand..."

You may have noticed a clear imbalance in our blogs as of well... January 31, 2010. Since he publicly aired my nagging about blogs, I decided to stop (kind of). I stopped reminding him to blog (ahem, about his groomsmen), to shop for his shirt and tie, to pick out presents for his groomsmen, to pick out songs... to do the million other things HE has on HIS to-do list. At least I stopped reminding him the traditional way and resorted to how we like to do things -- embracing technology.

I put recurring reminders in his Outlook calendar with deadlines for some key tasks. I hear when his iPhone goes off alerting him of an impending deadline. "Dismiss", he clicks. I created a Google document listing all our wedding-related tasks, large and small. I put his name next to the stuff he has to do and my name next to the stuff I've been doing. You can guess which ones have been checked off. (On a sidenote: I will give him partial credit. In the last two weeks, he checked off one and a half tasks and made sure I knew about it. Like a child looking for affirmation.) I would have bribed him with an iPad but he went ahead and bought one for himself.

Sigh. And so go the woes of being a bride. Yes I am whining. Yes I was/am nagging. Yes it gets tense when our friends ask us how wedding stuff going and I have a disgruntled response about Jeng's slacker ways. While wedding planning was and still can be fun (at times), it is no longer.

I do not want to go bridezilla. I accept that nothing will be perfect and I care less and less about the tiniest of details. In the end, we will be married and we will be going on an amazing honeymoon, courtesy of Jeng's Executive Platinum status. So what if for the first 3 months of our married life, we will live somewhere in between his parents house, my parents house, my sisters condo and whatever hotel he is living in, living out of boxes and suitcases until his tenants vacate his condo? Once that painful hurdle has passed, we will begin building a life together. That should be cool. I wonder though, will I need to make Outlook reminders and Google docs for that?

P.S. As I reflect on what I just wrote, I realize that readers may interpret this passage as emo or just angry. Rest assured, I am neither.